Elf Lyons is known more for her comedy than her sexual orientation. Well at least she was until this Observer article came out about her polyamory lifestyle. Elf wrote about her experience of sharing her love and affections with more than one person and talks of how it has proved to be a good thing for her. I have worked with people in the Polyamory community before and have seen it work. But I have also witnessed the jealousy and mixed emotions that have occurred in some of these relationships. For some I do believe that it is the perfect solution. If it brings honesty then that is the most important thing for many. But even if you have agreed to share yourself with more than one person there can be misunderstandings and jealousy in terms of the emotions shared. For many, polyamory means a more honest way of being and therefor they are able to see the sharing of oneself and ones partner as nothing more than having several friends.
It is an intriguing issue and I do sometimes wonder if the monogamous relationship is something that society has created and instilled upon us at the norm. However, for me it is what works. As they say in Norway – your taste is like your bum, divided in two parts. Or, I could put it more eloquently: Different folks for different strokes.
Elf herself is warm and welcoming. Her humour is definitely on the quirky side, and “she’s a kooky one”. Her Edinburgh show this year, “Swan”, was based on Tchaikovsky’s Swan Lake. She dresses up as a swan (although she looks more like a parrot in the images I have seen,) and performs her own 1 hour interpretation of Swan Lake in her own made up French. She told me that Swans are not monogamous creatures and if Tchaikovsky had taken that into consideration when writing Swan Lake then the ballet would be a completely different one. Quirky, kooky, bonkers?! I think so – but I think I’d love it…